Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?

This is a question that’s probably been asked more times than we can count. It is a good one that but we can’t answer it directly. Here’s a small story to give you a little glimpse:

During WWII, a boy came home one day to find that his sister had been taken. Without even thinking, this 16 year old boy runs to the bunker where they took her. He barges through the door and goes “Give me back my sister!”

The Nazi officer looks at him and laughs. “Boys! He wants his sister back! Ha! Should we give back the sister?”

“Ya ya ya! Sure! Let’s give him back his sister! Tell you what, kid. We’ll give you back your sister….when you grow hair on your palms! Ha!”

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The boy looks and them and goes, “Ok”, and sticks out his hands; and there is hair on his palms. The officers start can’t believe what they see. They just wanted him out of there because they were so scared. They threw out the boy and his sister and they both ended up surviving the war.

Many years later, someone went to interview this man, who still had hair on his palms. The interviewer asked him what is was. He said when he was a little kid, he got burned terribly on his hands and they grafted skin from an area of his body that had hair. His whole life he was so embarrassed but the very thing that he thought “why?” was what ended up saving him and his sister.

This story came from a speech that answers this very question. I have never heard this question answered better than by Rabbi Gavriel Friedman, or “Rav Gav” as they call him. He is a brilliant man who is intriguing to listen to, and humour is his specialty. Definitely not your typical Rabbi!

The way he goes about answering this question is by building up from the beginning. He explains it with very logical concepts, in addition to fascinating stories. It is long so you don’t have to listen to the whole thing, or even any of it, but I highly recommend that you do, even just the first 3 minutes! It gave me a completely new perspective on this concept and really gave me a lot more clarity.

Let me know what you think of the video in the comments! Or if you want me to do a sum up of the video in another post!

Bad things sometimes happen to good people; the key to happiness is to try and make the best of, and be thankful for the hand we are dealt. -Colleen Houck

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The Ultimate Protection

Almost a year ago, my family experienced nothing less than an open miracle.

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Looks scary? What if I told you that my baby cousin, who wasn’t even 2 yet, was sitting right where that car hit?

Let me start from the beginning. My aunt lives in New Jersey and came to Toronto for Passover. She was staying by her in-laws and was getting everyone ready to go say hi to her parents. Her husband put their daughter in the car while she went to go get the other two kids ready. Her husband left the car door opened so that the baby wouldn’t be hot.

He stood there for a few minutes and then walked away to go see if the other kids were almost ready. Less than 30 seconds after he walked away, a car rammed into the side of the car. Right where he had been standing.

He ran to the baby who was screaming and completely covered, head to toe, in glass. Through her screaming, she spit out her pacifier because there was glass in her mouth. His father, who is a well known pediatrician, came running to inspect her. Thank God, the only thing she had on her was a tiny scratch on her pinky toe. My aunt spent the next hour trying to get all of the glass out of the baby’s hair.

The car was totalled and the car seat couldn’t be used anymore, but my uncle and the baby were completely fine. How? Well had my uncle not walked away at that second, the car would have hit him. Had he not left the car door opened, the car would have hit the baby directly. Since the door on the van was opened, it acted as a doubled layer and protected the baby.

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All these little things seemed like nothing before the car hit. But after, these little things saved two lives. Nothing in this world is insignificant. When we begin to see that, we start to look at everything with a whole new perspective.

Do you believe in miracles? Well, you should. In fact, life itself is a big miracle. There are so many things that are beyond our understanding. There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle; or you can live as if everything is a miracle. -Albert Einstein

An Everyday Miracle

As I’m sitting by my gate at the airport, I can’t help but remember a remarkable story that happened a few years ago.

I was travelling to New York for midwinter break and a bunch of girls in my grade were on my flight. I was running pretty late and as I was racing through the airport, my friend called to tell me they had been paging me. When I got to the gate, the staff at the desk told me I had missed the flight and I would have to take the next one.Running through the airport

Normally, this wouldn’t be such a big deal, but I was getting a ride into New Jersey with a family friend who was on that flight! I felt horrible and told her I would take a cab, but she insisted she would wait the extra hour and a half for me.

Everything else went well and I landed in Newark Liberty International Airport. As I handed my customs form to the officer on my way out, he stopped me.

“Was there someone on your flight named Judith?”

I looked at him like he was crazy. How was I supposed to know? I didn’t play the get to know you game with the people on my flight! I told him I’m sorry and I have no idea.

“Are you sure? You don’t know this person?” He proceeded to show me a passport and the person’s picture.Passport

Well, that passport happened to have been my friend’s! She doesn’t go by her legal name so I had no idea who he was referring to. She had dropped her passport on the way out and didn’t realize. If I had been on her flight, who knows how or if she would have gotten her passport?

Although I had to miss my flight, I think it was well worth it since I was able to find her passport and return it to her safely. It’s the little things like this in the world that make you really appreciate everything that happens in our lives. The hard part is to start noticing them. 🙂

Miracles happen everyday, change your perception of what a miracle is and you’ll see them all around you. -Jon Bon Jovi

What Do We Really See?

Imagine this:

You pass a door. You hear someone screaming. You see a small hole in the door and look in. The person is clearly in a lot of pain. You can barley see, but you do manage to make out another person, hovering over them. Your mind races. Murder? Torture? What could be happening in there? A small part of you panics and you open the door.

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When you walk in you feel relieved and stupid at the same time. The person screaming was a patient getting their tooth fixed. The murderer/torturer? You guessed it. Just the dentist.

Although it seemed like the dentist was hurting the person, all he was really doing was helping him. He was trying to stop the pain permanently. But in order for that to happen, he needed to endure it for a little longer.

This is, in essence, how our lives are. We may think we know the reason for something but we don’t. We are just looking through a tiny hole. We have no idea what could be going on on the other side. The pain in the moment may just be the means to stop the pain for life.

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How many times have you heard someone say “This isn’t what it looks like!” Many times it isn’t. It may look like someone is sad, hurt, or doing something wrong, but we never know what’s going on. Just like we don’t always know the reason for things that happen to ourselves, we don’t know what is going on with others too.

So next time something or someone hurts you or someone else, whether physically or emotionally, just remember that the pain isn’t for nothing, if anything it may be the start of something great.

There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in. -Leonard Cohen

Fall Seven Times, Get Up Eight

Do you ever think about what really separates the winners from the losers in life? There’s a passage that says “Fall Seven Times, Get Up Eight” and this is going to explain everything.

The first thing that comes to your mind is probably who is the richest, looks the happiest, or is the most popular. We look at these people and they seem to never have anything bad happen to them – it’s like they never fall! I’m gonna show you that that’s not true.

The real way to define who is a winner and who is a loser, is who gets back up after they fall. Everyone, even the most “perfect” people go through hard things in life. What makes them successful, is that they overcome them.

So now you’re probably thinking, well ok, so they fall. Why is it specifically 7 times? Why not 2? Or 6? Or 10? The passage was explaining that we have to constantly fall – through all 7 days of the week! We don’t just fall once and expect to be great – we have to constantly keep getting back up!contacto-fisioterapia-soria-lesion-muscular.png

You may be thinking, well what if I just can’t? What if it’s too hard? And you know what? You’re right! Sometimes it seems like that. But here’s the comfort: No challenge is put in front of us unless we are capable of conquering it. Even if in the moment it seems as though you may never recover, just know that you will! You have the strength to be able to overcome everything life throws at you. Like when a baby falls and gets hurt, it may seem as though he can’t get up but somehow, he does! Sometimes it takes a few minutes but he keeps trying and eventually, gets back up.

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Now here is where it ties together. Why do we need to fall in the first place? Why do we have to go through these challenges in life? The reason is this: without falling, we having nothing to get up from. In order to keep going higher and higher, sometimes we need to go down first. When we fall, it may not be the bad horrible thing it seems like in the moment, but rather the reason we grow. By getting up, we become a winner. Not because we’re better than someone else. But because we didn’t let our own challenges drag us down.tyson-gay.jpg

This post was inspired by this short 2 minute video I saw. If you have a chance, take a look 🙂

Never let a stumble in the road be the end of the journey. -Author Unknown